To have good conversations, it is important to listen to the other person and avoid interrupting. Keep reading to learn more about how to have meaningful dialogues.
Starting a conversation with a simple “Hi! How are you?” may seem like a good idea, but it often leads to a dead end when the response is just “good!” and you find yourself struggling to find topics to discuss. Even worse is when a conversation abruptly ends due to a difference of opinion. The key to avoiding such situations lies in breaking away from bad conversation habits.
Good conversations are essential for engaging discussions between individuals. They don’t always have to be serious, but they should be interesting. This is where conversation habits play a crucial role. A single inappropriate remark can derail a good conversation and lead to an awkward or embarrassing conclusion. Health Shots spoke to counselling psychologist Anu Goel to understand the art of having good conversations and what to avoid saying.
What defines a healthy conversation?
A healthy conversation allows individuals to feel comfortable discussing their problems, even those that are difficult to talk about openly with others. According to Goel, a good conversation not only involves discussing such topics, but also reaching conclusions.
What are the common barriers to good communication?
There are certain behaviors that should be avoided in order to have constructive conversations with others.
1. Inability to listen to others
Conversations involve a two-way exchange of ideas and beliefs, so it is essential to pay attention when the other person is speaking.
2. Different conversation styles
People come from various backgrounds and have different ways of expressing themselves. Goel points out that language barriers can hinder a good conversation.
3. Lack of trust and transparency
Trust is crucial in communication. Without trust, there may be doubts about the other person’s intentions, leading to harmful thoughts that can disrupt a healthy conversation.
Conversation habits you should avoid
1. Being ready with a response
Instead of jumping to conclusions, it is important to listen and understand the other person’s perspective. Sharing a quick judgment can make the other person feel uncomfortable and hesitant to share further.
2. Interrupting the other person
Interrupting someone while they are speaking is disrespectful and can ruin the conversation. It is important to give the other person a chance to express themselves fully before sharing your own thoughts.
3. Not pausing while speaking
Allow the other person time to respond and engage in the conversation. Talking too quickly can overwhelm the listener and prevent meaningful interaction.
4. Trying to always be right
Avoid the temptation to always prove your point. It is important to offer constructive advice only when asked and allow the other person to be heard.
5. Overlapping conversations
Competing with the other person in a conversation can lead to arguments rather than a healthy discussion. It is important to listen and engage without trying to outdo the other person.
6. Reacting instantly
Take the time to listen and understand before responding. Reacting impulsively can negatively impact the conversation.
7. Ignoring the other person’s reaction
Pay attention to the other person’s cues and adjust your responses accordingly. Communication is a two-way street, so it is important to be responsive to the other person’s reactions.
8. Lying during a conversation
It is better to admit when you don’t know something rather than giving false advice. Honesty is key to maintaining a genuine conversation.